The one thing I have learnt from motherhood is to never measure. And the honest fact is, you can never measure and when you try to, who do you think you are to be measuring. This applies to everything across the board, but especially so for a new mum I find:
For the Mums(my scenario):
You never tried natural birth, you are measured as less of a mum:
It doesn’t matter natural birth or cesarean, you are still a great mum. (It doesn’t make you a better mum just because you can bear the pain for the moment. You can still be a noob mum even if u do natural delivery)
You can’t bring your kid to play group because u have to work:
Doing less in some areas doesn’t make you less of a mum. (Maybe you are just better at other areas.)
You can feed breast milk for 6mths, why don’t you(ppl give you one look):
Feeding less than 6 mths breast milk (according to all guide books, it’s the good time frame) doesn’t mean ur kid is going to grow up not so bright. (Come on’ they will still get sick here n there eventually. You give what you can give, it’s nt a competition. Hello?i was engorged at least 4-5 times?)
You take so long to slim down the belly one, other ppl don’t even look like they were once pregnant(in singlish):
You are just as beautiful as you are. At least that’s how I tell myself.(hey..how pretty do you think you will look if u keep telling yourself that u are not as slim as before or slim down as fast as the model In the mag.hey, u hve a 3kg++ kiddo that came from your tummy…give yourself a break?exercising is nt magic)
Why you don’t consider being a housewife?you won’t be able to spend as much time with ur kid…
Hey. I am not a super career minded person. But I am sure I cannot be a full-time housewife. My aim is to balance both. A working mother does not mean I’m going to dump my kids aside.
Anyways the scenarios are endless… All I wanted to say is that every mum is different. You doing things differently doesn’t mean you are less of a mum, who is anyone to judge u. Also, there is no need to follow the norm, you should be figuring how to bring up ur kid as they go, not force them to become the norm and follow the book. But saying that, kids are still kids, I believe that they still need some discipline here and there.
Mum . Kat . Seth 